RESOURCES

There is a huge selection of websites, books, and podcasts out there about psychology, healing, and personal & spiritual growth. These are some I recommend as particularly astute and insightful.

Relationships & Attachment 

Nonviolent Communication (NVC) (website)  great resources for learning NVC, restructuring the way we express ourselves, listen to others, identify our needs, and communicate those clearly, promoting greater self-awareness and fostering deeper interpersonal relationships. 

 

Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships: Healing the Wound of the Heart (book) John Welwood

 

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner's Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and and Build a Secure Relationship (book)  Stan Tatkin

 

Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (book)  Sue Johnson

 

When the Past is Present: Healing the Emotional Wounds that Sabotage Our Relationships (book) – David Richo

 

The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples (book) – John Gottman

 

Trauma Recovery

My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies (book)Resmaa Menakem, MSW, LICSW

Greater Than the Sum of Our Parts: Discovering Your True Self Through Internal Family System Therapy (book) - Richard Schwartz, PhD

 

Transforming Trauma: EMDR: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Freeing the Mind, Clearing the Body, and Opening the Heart (book) – Dr. Laurel Parnell

 

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind & Body in the Healing of Trauma (book)  Bessel van der Kolk

 

Recovery from Trauma, Addiction, or Both: Strategies for Finding Your Best Self (book) – Lisa Najavits

Anxiety, Depression, & Stress

 

The Depression Book: Depression as an Opportunity for Spiritual Growth (book) – Cheri Huber

 

The Mindful Way Through Depression: Freeing Yourself from Chronic Unhappiness (book) – Williams, Teasdale, Segal & Kabat-Zinn

 

Lost Connections: Why You're Depressed and How to Find Hope (book) – Johann Hari

 

The Anxiety & Worry Workbook: The Cognitive Behavioral Solution (book) – Clark & Beck

 

The Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook (book)  Davis & Eshelman

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction Workbook (book)  – Stahl & Goldstein

Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) (online course) – free online version of the widely used 8-week MBSR course 

 

Shame & Self-Esteem

The Body is Not an Apology: The Power of Radical Self-Love (book) - Sonya Renee Taylor

 

Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life with the Heart of a Buddha (book) – Tara Brach

 

Healing the Core Wound of Unworthiness: The Gift of Redemptive Love (audiobook) – Adyashanti 

 

The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are (book)  Brene Brown

 

Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself (book)  Kristin Neff

Mindfulness, Buddhist Psychology, & Neuroscience

Tara Brach (website) - one of my favorite meditation teachers, with a website full of free meditations, video talks, and more

Spiritrock (organization) – Insight Meditation (also known as vipassana or mindfulness) center in Marin County with many online programs.

 

East Bay Meditation Center (organization) – Insight meditation center in Oakland, "offering meditation training and spiritual teachings from Buddhist and other wisdom traditions, with attention to social action, multiculturalism, and the diverse populations of the East Bay and beyond."

Rick Hanson (website) – neuroscience research on happiness, confidence, resilience with videos, audiobooks, podcast, and more. 

Wherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness Meditation in Everyday Life (book) – John Kabat-Zinn

 

The Wise Heart – A Guide to the Universal Teachings of Buddhist Psychology (book) – Jack Kornfield

 

Hardwiring Happiness: The New Brain Science of Contentment, Calm & Confidence (book) – Rick Hanson 

 

Meditations to Change Your Brain: Rewire Your Neural Pathways to Change Your Life (audiobook) – Rick Hanson 

Going to Pieces Without Falling Apart: A Buddhist Perspective on Wholeness (book) Mark Epstein

Ecopsychology

For the Wild (podcast) - inspiring podcast "focused on land-based protection, co-liberation, and intersectional storytelling rooted in a paradigm shift away from human supremacy, endless growth and consumerism."

Animas Valley Institute (organization) – offering "journeys into the mysteries of nature and psyche, including Soulcraft™ intensives, contemporary vision fasts, and training programs for nature-based soul guides.” Signup available on their website for free newsletter with lots of inspiring information. They have a generous scholarship program available, especially for people from historically marginalized communities, folks under 35 years old, and those involved in creating cultural change. 

 

Ecology of Awakening (organization)  offering programs "weaving together cosmology, deep ecology, somatic resiliency work and other time-tested processes that usher us towards dissolving our borders and discovering our deepest belonging—to ourselves, to each other, to the Earth and to the greater mystery.” 

 

School of Lost Borders (organization) – offering "vision fasts and rites of passage training which cultivate self-trust, responsibility, and understanding about ones' unique place within society and the natural world."

Active Hope: How to Face the Mess We're In Without Going Crazy (book) - Joanna Macy

 

Soulcraft: Crossing in the Mysteries of Nature and Psyche (book) – Bill Plotkin

 

Wild Mind: A Field Guide to the Human Psyche (book)  Bill Plotkin

 

Nature and the Human Soul: Cultivating Wholeness and Community in a Fragmented World (book)  Bill Plotkin

 

Ecopsychology: Restoring the Earth, Healing the Mind (book)  Roszak, Gomes & Kanner

 

Depth Psychology

Living Myth (podcast) – mythologist Michael Meade sharing timeless wisdom from myths from around the world

 

Awakening the Soul: A Deep Response to a Troubled World (book)  Michael Meade

 

The Search for the Beloved: Journeys in Mythology & Sacred Psychology (book)  Jean Houston

 

The Soul's Code: In Search of Character & Calling (book) James Hillman

 

Women Who Run With the Wolves: Myths & Stories of the Wild Woman Archetype (book) Clarissa Pinkola Estes

 

Care of the Soul: A Guide for Cultivating Depth & Sacredness in Everyday Life (book) – Thomas Moore

 

 

Sexuality 

 

Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life (book) – Emily Nagoski

 

Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the 21st Century (book) – Barbara Carrellas

 

Women's Anatomy of Arousal: Secret Maps to Buried Treasure (book) – Sheri Winston

Non-Monogamy

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consentual Nonmonogamy (book) - Jessica Fern

 

The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love (book) – Janet Hardy & Dossie Easton

 

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships (book) – Tristan Taormino

 

Psycho-Spiritual Inquiry

 

The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life (book) – Adyashanti

Loving What is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life (book) – Byron Katie

 

When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times (book)  Pema Chodron

 

Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment (book) – Eckhart Tolle

A Path with Heart: A Guide Through the Perils and Promises of Spiritual Life (book) – Jack Kornfield

Psychedelic Integration

 

Consciousness Medicine: Indigenous Wisdom, Entheogens, and Expanded States of Consciousness for Healing and Growth (book) – Francoise Bourzat

 

The Psychedelic Explorer's Guide: Safe, Therapeutic, and Sacred Journeys (book) – James Fadiman

Other Recommendations

Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up (book) - James Hollis

 

Tapping In: A Step by Step Guide to Activating Your Healing Resources Through Bilateral Stimulation (book) – Dr. Laurel Parnell

 

Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life (book) – Marshall Rosenberg

 

Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear (book) – Elizabeth Gilbert

 

A Big New Free Happy Unusual Life: Self-Expression and Spiritual Practice for Those Who Have Time for Neither (book) – Nina Wise